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Warning Signs of a Cheating Spouse and How
to Catch Them
by Chris Loomis
You can’t recall when it started, but you know it’s
present now. It’s that sinking funny feeling you get in your stomach, possibly an
intuition that makes you believe that your spouse is stepping out and having an
affair and cheating on you. Maybe things just don’t seem right or as they used
to with your husband or wife. Is there a new unexplainable tension in your
relationship? Maybe something has changed with your girlfriend or boyfriend…. Regardless
of whether it is an emotional affair or a physical affair it is still cheating.
Infidelity is infidelity.
Many people feel that they are the only one that has ever
been humiliated and hurt by a cheating spouse. However, adultery, infidelity,
or cheating, whatever you want to call it, crosses all social barriers. It
doesn’t matter how much money you make, where you are located geographically,
what you do for a living or what you don’t do for a living, or any other
factors-cheating is present in all walks of and stations in life. Many people
thing that men are the most likely to cheat, but women are nearly as prone to
In a March 2006 study titled, “American Sexual Behavior:
Trends, Socio-Demographic Differences, and Risk Behavior,” by Tom W. Smith of
the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, it is stated that, “The best estimates are
that about 3-4% of currently married people have a sexual partner besides their
spouse in a given year and about 15-18% of ever-married people have had a
sexual partner other than their spouse while married.”
Do you want to catch them in the act of have enough
evidence to confront them? Then keep
Here’s a list of several signs, or “red flag indicators,”
that your spouse is cheating. You’ll notice that they are not geared more towards
any particular gender. Also, it is quite possible that one or several of these
indicators are present, but that doesn’t mean your spouse is cheating. What may
be a red flag in one relationship may be nothing to be concerned about in
another relationship. Some of these
indicators might be “tongue in cheek” while others might be a dead giveaway and
definitive proof. No matter what these signs and symptoms of cheating need to
be examined and considered in their totality. Proper and complete investigation
is required to reach an appropriate conclusion.
Remember: these indicators must be analyzed in their
totality. The presence of one indicator does not provide a definitive answer to
So, how do you catch your spouse in the act of cheating?
For one, seek the assistance of an outside 3rd party. Not a friend or
family member, but a professional that deals with this sort of thing on a
regular basis. Possibly you need to hire a Private Investigation or even maybe
a psychologist. It may be a good idea to
What can you do yourself? First and foremost, trust your
intuition, but gain confirmation. Start looking at your spouse’s overall
behaviors and any change in their appearance. Listen closely to your spouse for
any off color or out of character remarks being made. Also, pay attention to
inconsistencies or lies. Take note of any new smells on your spouse’s person or
in their vehicle. This can range from unfamiliar fragrances to incriminating
sexual odors. Stay vigilant, but not intrusive of their privacy.
Also, document everything. Do not rely on your memory.
Record your findings in a journal and keep it under lock and key. This will
make it easier for you to analyze what is happening and determine patterns.
Continue your observations and things will begin to fall into place.
You must also be disciplined and restrain yourself. It’ll
take a large effort on your part to keep your mouth shut as you develop
evidence against your spouse. There will be an appropriate time for
Most importantly-DO NOT jeopardize your safety or legal
liability in an attempt to gain insight or evidence of any affair or cheating!
There are several applicable State and Federal laws that
must be adhered to in the investigation of infidelity. Either consult your
Attorney or let a professional Private Investigator take over in these instances.
For instance there are laws that pertain to using GPS
tracking devices. In California, Penal Code Section 637.7 states:
“637.7.(a) No person or entity in this state shall use an
tracking device to determine the location or movement of a person.”
there is always technicality of laws. For instance, there is Assembly Bill 452,
that if passed, will amend the above referenced Penal Code Section.
phones and/or intercepting email communications is also prohibited in
California under Penal Code Section 631, which states:
“631.(a) Any person who, by means of any machine, instrument, or contrivance, or in any other manner, intentionally taps, or makes any unauthorized connection, whether physically, electrically, acoustically, inductively, or otherwise, with any telegraph or telephone wire, line, cable, or instrument, including the wire, line, cable, or instrument of any internal telephonic communication system, or who willfully and without the consent of all parties to the communication, or in any unauthorized manner, reads, or attempts to read, or to learn the contents or meaning of any message, report, or communication while the same is in transit or passing over any wire, line, or cable, or is being sent from, or received at any place within this state; or who uses, or attempts to use, in any manner, or for any purpose, or to communicate in any way, any information so obtained, or who aids, agrees with, employs, or conspires with any person or persons to unlawfully do, or permit, or cause to be done any of the acts or things mentioned above in this section, is punishable by a fine not exceeding two thousand five hundred dollars ($2,500), or by imprisonment in the county jail not exceeding one year, or by imprisonment in the state prison, or by both a fine and imprisonment in the county jail or in the state prison.”
Think it might be a good idea
to take a look at your spouse’s consumer credit report to see if they have any
new credit cards? Don’t even think about it. Title 15 of the United State Code
section 1681 lists more than a few permissible purposes for obtaining a
consumer credit report…and spousal infidelity isn’t one of them!
Oh yeah, about bank account
records and statements that are not in your name: It takes an act of God or at
least a court order.
Then there is surveillance. Ah
yes, good ole spying. It’s a GREAT tool to use. It can oftentimes produce
smoking gun evidence of infidelity and get it all caught on film or some other
media. We’ve all seen it on television and in the movies. Once again, there are
applicable laws that must be followed (pun intended). So many that it is the
subject of another article! And, it’s not the easiest task to accomplish.
Surveillance is not about sitting outside a house in a car in the rain, or
looking through a small in a newspaper you are pretending to be reading. It is
part art and part science.
Sounds pretty gloomy with no
hope of seeking the truth? Not so fast. There is a solution. Find a competent
licensed Private Investigator. They’ll know the appropriate course of action if
there are attuned at working infidelity investigations. They will probably have
more than a few tricks up their sleeve. And they will be abreast of all the legalities
involved. They can undertake the task, and get to the bottom of it all for you.
This article may be reproduce by anyone as long as all website URL’s and contact information for Chris Loomis Consultations remains.
Chris Loomis Consultations
-A Private Investigations Firm-
P.O. Box 660351
Arcadia, CA 91006 U.S.A.
(626) 230-3137 Office
CA PI # 24384